Yes! So beautiful! I’ve always felt like I have my own sense8 family. People out there in the real world who I have real life intertwined experiences with, but I’ve never actually met them. I even know their names and what they look like. They’re real people who have profiles, names and I know they’ve thought about me too because they’ve posted things I’ve posted and have sent hints to my existence. They’ve even blocked me without me doing anything, just existing! And this is only one of the garlics in my entire internal family thinking! It’s a lot to handle when it’s real, just like this email. I’m so happy I asked for you to remember me many years ago because the healing that has occurred between you, me, and this virtual community via this electronic medium is just as real!! Thank you Sascha!!! You’re amazing!
I read Society of the Spectacle in a radical film theory class at Bard so we really went through it. DeBord’s film “Can Dialectics Break Bricks” is very well worth watching btw. His death was a message to me to not go too far out there by over analyzing society and blaming yourself for the world’s problems. I still do though today. I hate that part.
This made me feel really good to read! Soothing even. Thank you!
I'm glad you appreciate it and it was great to see you in Tompkins last week! You might really appreciate learning the basics of IFS theory, it's really helped me put the over analyzing, critical parts in perspective. They are really useful when they're not the ones in control. Write me if you want and I'll send you a pdf of the intro book and you can see for yourself if it's interesting.
May 3, 2023·edited May 3, 2023Liked by Sascha Altman DuBrul
what comes up for me: The IFS model of thinking in parts is clearly indebted to people who experience DID; these brave people have survived immense trauma, and in explaining to us their experience, I have been given a language to explore my own parts. A new way of thinking has been given to me by the people most in need of help, and most neglected by the whole field of mental healthcare. There are still many people who deny plural people's own experiences of themselves. This systemic marginalization and gaslighting is in part a result of the "false memory syndrome" bullshit of the 90s, which was mobilized to protect abusers. These politically-motivated huxters found common cause with behaviorists who were working to repudiate anything that smacked of psychodynamics. And so here we are. At least 1.5% of the population has DID, but because of the aforementioned situation, it's radically underdiagnosed. Regardless, at that bottom end of 1.5%, there are still more people with DID than people with OCD, BPD, or a host of other groupings of symtoms that we hear being actively treated by the mental health system. While that system remains reliant on the old "therapy" of integration, which no-one with DID actually wants. DID urgently needs to have its TikTok moment, and we should stand in solidarity with plurals as they work to overcome this generational injustice.
This woman's writing has been a guidepost for me for many years: "The culture that inequality creates around itself is saturated with pain, confusion, alienation, a sense of the unreality of our own experience and that of others, an inability to name the abuses we experience, perpetrate and witness on a daily basis. Part of what leaves us numb is
the massive scale on which these abuses occur. We are a society of people living in a state of post-traumatic shock: amnesiac, dissociated, continually distracting ourselves from the repetitive injuries of widespread collective violence". - Aurora Levins Morales "False Memories" https://collectiveliberation.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Morales_False_Memories.pdf
Years before I'd ever heard of IFS I had already learned so much from DID friends of mine. IFS gave me a framework to understand it and work with it. This was required reading when I did the level 1 IFS training: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/1324567
Yes! So beautiful! I’ve always felt like I have my own sense8 family. People out there in the real world who I have real life intertwined experiences with, but I’ve never actually met them. I even know their names and what they look like. They’re real people who have profiles, names and I know they’ve thought about me too because they’ve posted things I’ve posted and have sent hints to my existence. They’ve even blocked me without me doing anything, just existing! And this is only one of the garlics in my entire internal family thinking! It’s a lot to handle when it’s real, just like this email. I’m so happy I asked for you to remember me many years ago because the healing that has occurred between you, me, and this virtual community via this electronic medium is just as real!! Thank you Sascha!!! You’re amazing!
wow, who is this?
This is Youssef! I reached out so long ago after one of my lectures and happy I did. Love! Thank you!
i remember you! i like what you're saying about sense8. mad love
I read Society of the Spectacle in a radical film theory class at Bard so we really went through it. DeBord’s film “Can Dialectics Break Bricks” is very well worth watching btw. His death was a message to me to not go too far out there by over analyzing society and blaming yourself for the world’s problems. I still do though today. I hate that part.
This made me feel really good to read! Soothing even. Thank you!
I'm glad you appreciate it and it was great to see you in Tompkins last week! You might really appreciate learning the basics of IFS theory, it's really helped me put the over analyzing, critical parts in perspective. They are really useful when they're not the ones in control. Write me if you want and I'll send you a pdf of the intro book and you can see for yourself if it's interesting.
what comes up for me: The IFS model of thinking in parts is clearly indebted to people who experience DID; these brave people have survived immense trauma, and in explaining to us their experience, I have been given a language to explore my own parts. A new way of thinking has been given to me by the people most in need of help, and most neglected by the whole field of mental healthcare. There are still many people who deny plural people's own experiences of themselves. This systemic marginalization and gaslighting is in part a result of the "false memory syndrome" bullshit of the 90s, which was mobilized to protect abusers. These politically-motivated huxters found common cause with behaviorists who were working to repudiate anything that smacked of psychodynamics. And so here we are. At least 1.5% of the population has DID, but because of the aforementioned situation, it's radically underdiagnosed. Regardless, at that bottom end of 1.5%, there are still more people with DID than people with OCD, BPD, or a host of other groupings of symtoms that we hear being actively treated by the mental health system. While that system remains reliant on the old "therapy" of integration, which no-one with DID actually wants. DID urgently needs to have its TikTok moment, and we should stand in solidarity with plurals as they work to overcome this generational injustice.
Have you seen the show Sense8? I fantasize about developing a therapy practice that looks like that show (or writing a book based on it.)
I haven't, thanks for the rec!
This woman's writing has been a guidepost for me for many years: "The culture that inequality creates around itself is saturated with pain, confusion, alienation, a sense of the unreality of our own experience and that of others, an inability to name the abuses we experience, perpetrate and witness on a daily basis. Part of what leaves us numb is
the massive scale on which these abuses occur. We are a society of people living in a state of post-traumatic shock: amnesiac, dissociated, continually distracting ourselves from the repetitive injuries of widespread collective violence". - Aurora Levins Morales "False Memories" https://collectiveliberation.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Morales_False_Memories.pdf
Years before I'd ever heard of IFS I had already learned so much from DID friends of mine. IFS gave me a framework to understand it and work with it. This was required reading when I did the level 1 IFS training: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/1324567